Stories.

You know, when we were younger, we all almost had the same stories to tell. As a five year old, a six year old, a seven year old or even a ten year old, meeting new people wasn't a big deal. All of us were very similar with almost identical lifestyles. We were all, mostly, just a bunch of school kids with a lot of excitement and energy for life. Nothing bummed us out easily, apart from the occasional hiding we used to get from our parents and teachers for behaving badly.

Hello there, I am the Earthian.

As we hit the adulthood, as we say goodbye to our teenage, we realize that our world view has changed completely. Every thing we do accounts for who we are, it's our identity that's on the line. We learn to become more and more self-conscious in all the things that we do. And now, when we meet new people, we start realizing how different we are in all the ways. We no longer have that story that we all shared as a kid as a common element. Every person we talk to has a brand new perspective  of life to offer to us. And depending on how interested we are in those perspectives, depending on how much we resonate with people, depending on how parallel our stories run, depending on the people themselves, we make a conscious decision of whether or not to mingle with them, spend time with them.
We meet different people, is what I am trying to say. We meet different people and for our own good, we segregate them into different categories, solely based on our observations and notes of them, without approaching them and talking to them. We classify them and put them in different categories; nerdy, spunky, quirky, weird, attractive, interesting and what not, just to give you a hint of the categories we go for in general.
All of this is fine, until we actually interact with them. Then we get to know how valid our observations about them are, how good of a person we interacted with is, how consistent they are with their attitude towards us, are they trying to change or already showing signs of changes, but most of all, what is their story? what is it that made them who they are, today? If someone really did end up being interesting, what makes them interesting? These are what I always end up seeking from a person. As much as their opinions on what's trendy is fun to know, I believe it doesn't end there. There is so much that can be learnt from people and that what we learn from them, that what we share with them, is what that is also going to make our time with them count.

With love, peace.

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