Is It Worth It?
"Is it worth it?" is the question I had the opportunity to discuss about with my friend today. Is what worth it you may ask, and to answer just that, is going up to people (either the people we don't know or the people we don't know a lot about) and putting ourselves out-there, making ourselves uncomfortable and sharing a few moments with them just to know what they're made of, worth it?
Hello there, I am the Earthian.
And the conversation had a lot of intense moments to it. For starters, I completely understand where she came from and why she had the opinions she had. It's just hard to do it these days. There are so many things to keep in mind before we actually do it. Things like social stigma, the open-mindedness of the other person- how they might perceive the approach, us coming off as desperate and lonely people, us getting insulted by them, or worse, us getting ignored by them and so many more other things. The outcome also largely depends on our confidence which, for people like me, is really too much to ask for. The outcome is also largely bipolar, it can either go too well or can end up being extremely bad. And considering all of these uncertainties, it's only fair for one to a conclude that it isn't worth it.
But let's dig a little deeper. The moment you put yourself out there, you will learn that if you really think hard about it, social stigma is only as relevant as we make it to be. You will understand their open-mindedness is not even your problem, it's theirs. You basically have nothing to lose, a small chance to gain something but never anything to lose. The more we do it, the more confident we get too and surplus of confidence is always a good thing. And while the outcome is highly bipolar, our heart and our aim is not going to change so we aren't losing in any way. If it goes really well, we have a brand new acquaintance and if it goes badly, well at least we can pat our backs or even treat ourselves with ice-cream for trying.
If not for anything, at least approach people for the promised ice-cream (or other desserts of your preference).
Lots of love, peace.
Hello there, I am the Earthian.
And the conversation had a lot of intense moments to it. For starters, I completely understand where she came from and why she had the opinions she had. It's just hard to do it these days. There are so many things to keep in mind before we actually do it. Things like social stigma, the open-mindedness of the other person- how they might perceive the approach, us coming off as desperate and lonely people, us getting insulted by them, or worse, us getting ignored by them and so many more other things. The outcome also largely depends on our confidence which, for people like me, is really too much to ask for. The outcome is also largely bipolar, it can either go too well or can end up being extremely bad. And considering all of these uncertainties, it's only fair for one to a conclude that it isn't worth it.
But let's dig a little deeper. The moment you put yourself out there, you will learn that if you really think hard about it, social stigma is only as relevant as we make it to be. You will understand their open-mindedness is not even your problem, it's theirs. You basically have nothing to lose, a small chance to gain something but never anything to lose. The more we do it, the more confident we get too and surplus of confidence is always a good thing. And while the outcome is highly bipolar, our heart and our aim is not going to change so we aren't losing in any way. If it goes really well, we have a brand new acquaintance and if it goes badly, well at least we can pat our backs or even treat ourselves with ice-cream for trying.
If not for anything, at least approach people for the promised ice-cream (or other desserts of your preference).
Lots of love, peace.
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