Ulterior Motives.
The other day, I was having a conversation with someone, someone I never thought I'd end up talking to for two full hours. I never usually have conversations that last that long because I don't talk to people in general, until I am talked to by them. And this case wasn't any different either.
Hello there, I am the Earthian.
He rang me up the day before we were to meet for the conversation and asked me if I had time to catch up. He also told me that he had something very important to talk about. That in itself caught me off guard. Because it wasn't like we were close friends, we had only met two times prior to that conversation. But, I am never the one to shy away from a conversation, because as much as I don't start the conversations, once someone starts it for me, I like to keep the ball rolling. What can I say? I am weird that way.
Anyway, we met on a Thursday if I remember correctly and we started talking about some of the best conversational topics. He asked me what my ultimate aims, ambitions, goals and other nouns synonymous to the ones mentioned were and I was astonished. The skeptical part of me answered all of his questions promptly but not accurately. I gave him just enough information that I would share with any stranger and not a droplet more. He too reciprocated by answering all of the questions I had for him and it indeed was joyous conversation. After-all, its not everyday I get to have a heart to heart conversation with someone who is next to a stranger.
Half way through the conversation though, I realized he was trying to fish me. He started talking about a business venture he had and has invested his time in and he was trying to drag me into it too. See, the whole motive of his was to get me into whatever he's already into. Not that anything was wrong about it, but his ulterior motives weren't to get to know me, know about my dreams and know who I wanted to be. He couldn't give a dime about any of that. All he was trying to do was smooth me up, make me gain his trust by saying all the right things and to lure me in. A smart business move, I commend him for that but I never in a million years would have fallen for that for I have seen a lot many more people like him.
Point is, not a lot of people want to get to know other people anymore or if and when they do, they do it for not the right reasons. It almost always is about a business transaction at the end of the day. And that part is what I don't like about. That guy I was talking about, after I told him I wasn't ready to bite his bait and ended the conversation with pleasant adieus, I never heard from him again. Anyone who actually cared would have made attempts to stay in touch. He never did, and I didn't expect him to.
See, people have stories to tell. Beautiful stories that can warm up our hearts if we listened to them with all of our attention and our utmost care. Business deals are fun without question, but there is more to human connection than that. There always is more to it. Try out connecting with people on a deeper level and you definitely will acknowledge if not agree with me.
Lots of love, peace.
Hello there, I am the Earthian.
He rang me up the day before we were to meet for the conversation and asked me if I had time to catch up. He also told me that he had something very important to talk about. That in itself caught me off guard. Because it wasn't like we were close friends, we had only met two times prior to that conversation. But, I am never the one to shy away from a conversation, because as much as I don't start the conversations, once someone starts it for me, I like to keep the ball rolling. What can I say? I am weird that way.
Anyway, we met on a Thursday if I remember correctly and we started talking about some of the best conversational topics. He asked me what my ultimate aims, ambitions, goals and other nouns synonymous to the ones mentioned were and I was astonished. The skeptical part of me answered all of his questions promptly but not accurately. I gave him just enough information that I would share with any stranger and not a droplet more. He too reciprocated by answering all of the questions I had for him and it indeed was joyous conversation. After-all, its not everyday I get to have a heart to heart conversation with someone who is next to a stranger.
Half way through the conversation though, I realized he was trying to fish me. He started talking about a business venture he had and has invested his time in and he was trying to drag me into it too. See, the whole motive of his was to get me into whatever he's already into. Not that anything was wrong about it, but his ulterior motives weren't to get to know me, know about my dreams and know who I wanted to be. He couldn't give a dime about any of that. All he was trying to do was smooth me up, make me gain his trust by saying all the right things and to lure me in. A smart business move, I commend him for that but I never in a million years would have fallen for that for I have seen a lot many more people like him.
Point is, not a lot of people want to get to know other people anymore or if and when they do, they do it for not the right reasons. It almost always is about a business transaction at the end of the day. And that part is what I don't like about. That guy I was talking about, after I told him I wasn't ready to bite his bait and ended the conversation with pleasant adieus, I never heard from him again. Anyone who actually cared would have made attempts to stay in touch. He never did, and I didn't expect him to.
See, people have stories to tell. Beautiful stories that can warm up our hearts if we listened to them with all of our attention and our utmost care. Business deals are fun without question, but there is more to human connection than that. There always is more to it. Try out connecting with people on a deeper level and you definitely will acknowledge if not agree with me.
Lots of love, peace.
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